Ethel Wise Backenstose

With heavy hearts, we announce the passing of Ethel Wise Backenstose, 89, of Honey Brook, PA. She passed away on Friday, April 17, 2026, surrounded by loving family. She was the wife of the late William H. Backenstose who passed away in 2011. Born in Wagontown, West Caln Township, PA, she was the daughter of the late Jay H. and Rhoda Trego Wise. Ethel was a beloved mother, grandmother, great-grandmother, and cherished Aunt Ethel. A well-lived life worth celebrating.

She is survived by a son, Timothy R. (Holly) Backenstose of Downingtown, PA, a daughter, Tammy (Gregory) Deranleau of Conifer, CO, three grandchildren, Amanda Backenstose, Hunter Backenstose (Jessie), Camille Deranleau, and one great-granddaughter, Stevie Backenstose.

She is also survived by two of her siblings - sister Marlene Recchiuti, and brother Tom Wise, and many beloved nieces and nephews. She was preceded in death by six siblings: Mary Neal, Pearl Valerie Ford, Eleanor Wise, Dorothy Wise, Betty Wise, and Bill Wise.

Ethel came into this world on a cold February day, named in honor of the midwife, Ethel Zinn, who delivered her safely at home on the farm. She was the third eldest of nine siblings, a lifelong resident of Chester County, and a proud graduate of Scott High School’s class of 1955. While in high school, she enjoyed singing baritone with the Meistersingers. Her thirst for life and learning was reflected in the rich tapestry of her talents and interests.

In her early professional years, Ethel made her mark as a secretary at Lukens Steel for over a decade before pursuing her passion by graduating from Cosmetology School and embracing a fulfilling career as a hairstylist from 1966 until 2005. Those who visited her beauty shop experienced not only her expert and artistic hairstyling skills, but also her warmth, conversation, and vibrant spirit. 

Ethel’s artistic soul flourished through oil and watercolor painting; she was an active member of the Flying Colors art group, exhibited her work in art shows, and even helped to paint a set for a church theatre production. Her love for life extended beyond the studio—she delighted in outdoor adventures such as boating on Chesapeake Bay, playing tennis, skiing, and snowmobiling. As a person who cared deeply about others, she was a worrier; yet she was also an adventurer. She embraced activities and travel well into her later years.

Known for her radiant smile, kindness, and tender care for others, Ethel's heart was vast and generous. Her devotion to family was matched by her commitment to community—serving on the Coatesville Area School District School Board in the 1980s and as a deacon at Oxford Presbyterian Church. She enjoyed worshiping throughout her life at Upper Octorara Presbyterian Church, Oxford Presbyterian Church, and at the Tel Hai Chapel, living her Christian faith with grace and humility.

Her family remembers her as a fierce Scrabble competitor, a smart dresser who took pride in her appearance, and an extraordinary cook and hostess who could rival the best. She was an early adopter of health and fitness trends and loved to exercise and take her supplements. Her home was always welcoming, and her social calendar full, as she loved entertaining friends and family alike. 

Despite the challenges brought on by Alzheimer’s in her later years—a disease that tested her and her loved ones—Ethel retained her sweet smile, gentle kindness, and sense of humor, recognizing, cherishing, and laughing with those closest to her.

We extend heartfelt gratitude to the compassionate staff at Tel Hai Retirement Community, dedicated caregivers, and Grane Hospice, whose care brought comfort in her final days.

In lieu of flowers, the family requests that donations be made to the Alzheimer's Association, honoring Ethel’s legacy of love, kindness, and perseverance.

Ethel’s life was a masterpiece—a portrait of generosity, love, and joy. Though she is deeply missed, her spirit will forever illuminate the hearts of all who knew her.

A memorial service is being planned and details will be posted here.