Benjamin Jay Patterson

Feb 5 1990
Nov 3 2021
31 Years
Atglen, Pennsylvania

Benjamin Jay Patterson, 31, of Atglen, passed away suddenly as a result of an automobile accident on Wednesday, November 3, 2021.  Born in West Chester, PA, he was the beloved son of James Jay Patterson and Melissa Grace Spell Patterson.

Ben was a graduate of Octorara High School and attended Thaddeus Stevens Technical School.  He was a longtime employee at the Sunoco in Parkesburg.  He was a Jeep guy who loved to work on his Grand Cherokee.     

Ben enjoyed spending time at his family's home in Stone Harbor, NJ, where he was always available to help his grandparents and parents.   

Ben was very unselfish and would help anyone who needed it.

He loved spending time with his brothers and extended family. 

In addition to his parents he is survived by his brothers, Steven James Patterson of Lancaster, Robert Norman Patterson of Philadelphia, his grandmother, Eve E. Patterson and his dogs "Elsa and Hondo".

A memorial service will be held on Saturday, November 20, 2021, at 11:30 a.m. from the Parkesburg United Methodist Church on Main Street with a visitation starting at 10:00 a.m.  

In lieu of flowers, donations can be made to MossRehab Recreational Therapy Dept, 60 Township Line Road, Elkins Park, PA, 19027

Arrangements have been entrusted to the Wilde Funeral Home of Parkesburg, PA.  Online condolences can be posted at

Service Date: 
Nov 20 2021 - 11:30am
Service Location: 
Parkesburg United Methodist Church, Main Street, Parkesburg, PA


To the Patterson family,

You probably don’t remember me, it’s been so long, but I remember you all so fondly. I remember hanging out at your house and going with Ben to swim at my grandmoms house. I can’t imagine the pain and loss you’re going through right now. Please reach out if there’s anything I can do or that you need. I will be praying for peace for you and praying the God takes care of Ben. There must be a reason God needed him now. My deepest condolences. 


Shannon Leslie





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I don’t know where to begin; we are all so heartbroken. Please know you are in our thoughts prayers. We have nothing but sweet memories of Ben from the very beginning. 
We hope you can find some comfort in knowing how much Ben is loved by so many. Rest in peace sweet Ben.

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To the Patterson Family,

I'm so very sorry to hear of your loss. Ben was truly one of the kindest and most genuine people that I had the privilege of knowing. I first met Ben a long time ago when we both started working at Sunoco together. We became buddies outside of work, and shared many fun times together. He was always a good friend to me. To this day, I would stop by Sunoco to chat and catch up with him. He would often tell me about his dogs, recent trips to the beach, and his family, whom I could tell he loved very much. We’d made plans to get together soon. He’d always give me two good honks whenever he passed by my house in Atglen. He will surely be missed.

My thoughts & condolences are with all of you.

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Mr. and Mrs. Patterson,  I am deeply sorry for the unimaginable loss of your son Benjamin. My prayers our with your entire family. My love and care, Anne Wieland 














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Rest ezy bro

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Dear Mr. and Mrs. Patterson,

 I knew your son, Ben, very briefly. I am quite sure he would not have remembered my name but I will surely not forget his. The few times I found myself in his company were very memorable to me. The last time I saw him we had a conversation that will stick with me forever. We spoke of his future and the many possibilities. I saw the kind boy you raised inside the restless young man he was. We laughed. I made a few suggestions to him which he thanked me for. He offered me to give me 5 dollars for what reason, even now, I am still unsure of. Our little talk ended with me telling him that the discussion was just Part One of a series of talks we were going to have whenever our paths again might cross. Until then Ben…..

As a parent, I cannot even begin to imagine the agony. Please forgive my intrusion but as it was, I felt compelled to reach out to you to express my heartfelt sorrow over your loss. 

Rest in Peace Ben.

God Bless You,

Carmen De Liberty


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Melissa and Jim,
You & your family have been in my thoughts and prayers ever since I heard the tragic news of Ben's passing. Losing your child has got to be the number one most horrendous happening in one's life. Sadly, this side of our heavenly reunion with our loved ones, we will not understand. But remember that Ben would want you to keep his memory alive by living your best life. May God hold you in the palm of his hand and wrap his arms of comfort around you all. When you are ready to talk, text, or visit I'll be here. With much love cousin! ❤ Marcia

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We send you our sincere condolences for your loss. Ben was a friend of our son John and he was always welcome in our home. He was a kind, polite, and helpful young man who always made a point to speak to us with a smile and kind word. 

Betsy and Socker Gillen

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